7 Virtues We Can Strive For With Our Partners

7 Virtues We Can Strive For With Our Partners by James Russell Lingerfelt

After you have found someone who is a good fit for you, these are characteristics we can all strive for, together.1. Try to be kind... even to our enemies.

Anyone can be nice to people who are nice in return. Anyone can be nice to strangers, waiters, and their own family members… but to their enemies? 

At some point, you and your partner will be each other’s enemy. No relationship is butterflies, rainbows, and a consistent life of frolicking in the meadows.

When we learn to be kind to our enemies, we’ll in turn learn to be kind to our partner during any situation.


2. Learning value in servant leadership.

Striving to meet each other’s wants and needs doesn’t make us a doormat, because we’re choosing to serve each other.

No one is forcing us. And we understand relationships are all about giving and receiving. It takes humility to give. But it also takes humility to receive and just say, “thank you.”


3. Make gossip boring.

Be too busy pursuing your own goals and dreams with your partner to worry about the affairs of others. Love for each other and striving toward goals and dreams help establish security so that we will not want to put others down. We will have risen above that.

You and your partner have traveled your own roads with your own life experiences that others can’t possibly understand. And you know that’s true with others. 

4. Help loved ones solve their problems without criticizing.

If you see a problem in a loved one’s life, you ask if you can help in any way, without criticizing and correcting.

Life has taught you that each of us are hard enough on ourselves. We don’t need the people we love most to knock us down, too. 

Make home a safe haven. The ultimate support group. 


5. Learn not to panic when the boat’s rocked.

You will eventually realize your heart might pick up in pace, but you aren’t freaking out anymore. 

We have learned what the majors and minors are – what a big deal is, what a big deal isn’t. Besides, most drama is cured with an “I’m sorry,” some time away from each other, or just sleep.

6. Think before you act in anger.

When our emotions flare, we can’t think and reason objectively. 

In the human brain, when the emotional side heats up, it overpowers and outshouts the logical side. That’s why people can engage in the craziest behavior when they’re emotional… and are filled with infinite regret after they calm down.

When the emotions heat up, let’s step away until we can think clearly. 


7. Consult your elders.

Before you make major life decisions, you and your partner know to meet with older men and women in your lives whom you trust, to seek direction. 

You understand that the more advisors you have in your lives, the wiser and more successful you’ll become.

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3 comments

  • JAN HAWKINS

    JAN HAWKINS WEST SUSSEX ENGLAND

    Greetings from sunny Sussex in England. I loved the article on the seven issues to work on with relationships, particularly the bit around emotions and getting so heated that you regret what you have said or done, how very true! Where is the best place to buy your book the maison jar please? Many thanks, JAN

    Greetings from sunny Sussex in England. I loved the article on the seven issues to work on with relationships, particularly the bit around emotions and getting so heated that you regret what you have said or done, how very true!

    Where is the best place to buy your book the maison jar please?

    Many thanks,
    JAN

  • jamesrussell.org

    jamesrussell.org

    Hi Jan, all the places The Mason Jar is available would be a fine place to purchase a copy. Thank you for saying hello!

    Hi Jan, all the places The Mason Jar is available would be a fine place to purchase a copy. Thank you for saying hello!

  • Barbara G. and Debbie D.

    Barbara G. and Debbie D. B'ham Al

    We appreciate the effort spent on presenting the knowledge shared in the Seven Virtues, especially the Servant Leadership, Making Gossip Boring, and Consult Your Elders. Looking forward to reading Mason Jar and seeing the movie.

    We appreciate the effort spent on presenting the knowledge shared in the Seven Virtues, especially the Servant Leadership, Making Gossip Boring, and Consult Your Elders. Looking forward to reading Mason Jar and seeing the movie.

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